Friday, December 29, 2006

Buzzing in the New Year

At BE we often ask, “Who do you want to BE?” And as 2006 slips away into a hazy holiday cocktail party memory, we’re now asking “What kind of New Year do you want to have?” Naturally BE has some sexy thoughts on the subject to get your creative juices flowing! Come New Year’s Eve, whether you’re cuddled up in a romantic private party for two, dancing the night away with your special someone, or quietly ushering in a new era wearing your favorite jammies, we offer these ideas from BE’s shopping categories to help buzz in the New Year right!

BE SensualShunga’s Chocolate Body Paint pairs nicely with a bottle of chilled champagne! Set your artistic side free with this stunningly beautiful bottle of chocolate body paint. Write a love story on your partner’s body using the rubber quill paintbrush, and enjoy dessert together! This is our favorite product from the Shunga Erotic Art line.

And everyone knows that scrambled eggs and
Mimosas are a must on New Year’s Day. This year add something to your menu from Doc Johnson’s Cocktail collection. Flavored lubricants in all your favorite cocktail recipes, without that nasty post-cocktail headache!

BE Indulgent – Resolve to love yourself! Try the pretty little Maia, the gorgeous Nea, or the stylish Little Chroma. Keep them all to yourself or share them with just the right someone. Each of these massagers are designed to fit comfortably in a woman’s hand as well as resemble a beautiful objects d’art sitting on your nightstand. From the budget conscious to the big spending SavvyMiss, one of these beauties should find a new home with you! Shhh, you’re the only one who has to know that you’re keeping that love thyself resolution.

BE Daring – Wearing the Astrea Vibrating Panty will have you both shouting Happy New Year well before midnight. From Dr. Laura Berman's line of intimate products, a fabulous remote control vibrating panty that provides hands free stimulation. This designer panty with beautiful stretch lace is comfortable and sexy - the mini-remote is compact and removable - and the panty is washable. The remote allows you to receive hands-free stimulation, which is perfect for when you want to have some discreet sexy fun. Your partner will love having the remote control to surprise you when you are least expecting it. (12 ft. range)

BE a Mermaid – Splish-splash in a luxurious bath with these water-friendly toys. The Vibrating Bath Scrunchie is the little micro-vibe that will scrub-a-dub-dub you all over! Ingenious idea for shower and bath time by yourself, or with a partner. Best of all, it will never call attention to itself while hanging gently in your shower. It’s simple, completely incognito, and will work you into a lather!

Or play with the
I Rub My Penguin. He has 8 Play Modes, including multiple speed and pulse pattern combinations to meet your different massage needs. His curved body makes him easy to hold and to choose the depth and girth that is most desirable for you! Your friendly Penguin also comes with his own decorative Iceberg Display Stand that sits on countertops or attaches to the shower wall (with included suction cups), so your new best friend is always nearby and ready to play! We’re pretty sure you’ll have more than just “happy feet”!

BE Generous – Create some good New Year’s karma and send your friends BE e-Gift Certificates.

Visit Boudoir Essentials for more ideas and sexploration.

Saturday, December 02, 2006

E-Gift Certificates! Safe & Easy!

Rumor has it that holiday Grinches are giving shoppers the heebie-jeebies about buying gift cards and gift certificates. Apparently the aforementioned Grinches have found a way to copy code numbers from gift cards hanging on in-store racks, and then using those codes to help themselves to everything they can get their grubby little hands on.

Boudoir Essentials does offer
Gift Certificates for your shopping convenience, and we assure you with 110% confidence that it would be impossible for anyone other than the gift recipient to put it to good use. Why are we different? Well, being an online retailer, each BE Gift Certificate generates a unique code that lives only in our secure database. The Gift Certificate is emailed to your giftee and the only record of that unique code in the "real world" is on their e-certificate sent to their email account.

Best of all, e-Gift Certificates are an ideal solution if you have any concerns about the UPS sleigh delivering your gift in time! You may order an e-Gift Certificate 24/7!!

So if you choose to BE Generous this holiday season and purchase a BE Gift Certificate for your special someone, BFF, or everyone in your Mommy & Me club - BE confident that it will be Grinch-proof! You have our BE word on it!

One special shopping tip: If you were hoping to hand-deliver the gift certificate to your giftee but have missed shipping deadlines for a printable version - no need to panic. We recommend emailing the standard e-Gift Certificate to *yourself*and *printing it out for your giftee.* Voila! Crisis averted!

Visit BE Generous to order your gift certificate now!

Chick Chatting Live!

We laughed, we giggled, we talked toys! We were delighted to join our hostesses, Heidi & Lara, in a lively discussion of all things BE. Click here to listen!

Monday, November 27, 2006

Chics & Mints - Fighting AIDS and have joined forces to help raise awareness of the continuing battle against AIDS. December 1st is World AIDS Day. Click here and here for more info.

Pole Dancing & Mistletoe

Once your turkey tryptophan hangover has subsided, and the dessert-sugar-crash-burn cycle has passed, we think it's time to start burning off the extra calories to make way for the next four weeks of holiday feeding frenzy.

Come on now - get off the couch and have a little fun with your workout regimen. Frankly, we don't want to go to the gym either; and yes, we're aware that if it's too cold for man's best friend to go outside when it's necessary, then we're not going to advocate long wintery walks across the frozen tundra of your neighborhood.

But we will heartily embrace pole dancing for a little heart racing exercise. Mmm hmmm. We said pole dancing. Right in the privacy of your own boudoir, den, or living room. Hey! Why not take the Peekaboo Pole (portable) and put it right under the mistletoe? Okay, that might be stretching it but you get the picture.

Who says exercise is dull and boring? Not us! Dim the lights, cue the music, and we guarantee yours won't be the only elevated heart rate in the room!

You can find this in BE Daring.

Monday, November 20, 2006

Peace, Love, and Global Orgasm Day

SAN FRANCISCO - Two peace activists have planned a massive anti-war demonstration for the first day of winter. But they don't want you marching in the streets. They'd much rather you just stay home. The Global Orgasm for Peace was conceived by Donna Sheehan, 76, and Paul Reffell, 55, whose immodest goal is for everyone in the world to have an orgasm Dec. 22 while focusing on world peace.

"The orgasm gives out an incredible feeling of peace during it and after it," Reffell said Sunday. "Your mind is like a blank. It's like a meditative state. And mass meditations have been shown to make a change."

The couple are no strangers to sex and social activism. Sheehan, no relation to anti-war activist Cindy Sheehan, brought together nearly 50 women in 2002 who stripped naked and spelled out the word "Peace. The stunt spawned a mini-movement called Baring Witness that led to similar unclothed demonstrations worldwide.

The couple have studied evolutionary psychology and believe that war is mainly an outgrowth of men trying to impress potential mates, a case of "my missile is bigger than your missile," as Reffell put it. By promoting what they hope to be a synchronized global orgasm, they hope to get people to channel their sexual energy into something more positive. The couple said interest appears strong, with 26,000 hits a day to their Web site,

"The dream is to have everyone in the world (take part)," Reffell said. "And if that means laying down your gun for a few minutes, then hey, all the better."

Sunday, November 12, 2006

Planes, Trains, &'s Home for the Holidays

Over the river and through the your inlaws house you go!
Or your childhood bedroom.
Or a hotel up the road because you prefer a real bed to a sofa.
Wherever your holiday travels take you, we certainly hope you won't be leaving your normally sexy self at home. Think of all the fun you'll have trying to keep things quiet after everyone has retired to their quarters for the evening. ;) And let's not overlook the rejuvenating benefits of sex - coupled or solo - under stressful conditions like the holiday hustle & bustle.

So why not take a travel friend toy with you? No need to travel with the heavy artillery when a little nugget of fun will suffice! We have some suggestions that will go unnoticed in airline inspections - altho' when possible we recommend you stow your goodies in your checked baggage and remove the batteries! And if your nosey relatives (as much as you love them) stumble onto these trinkets, they won't be any more the wiser either!

BE Incognito for some travel-friendly toys:
Fukuoku 9000
Lipstick Vibe
Carry-on if you want to keep your secret in its own hush-hush accommodations
Last but not least...throw some
Afterglow dual-purpose wipes in your carry-on bag to refresh after a long flight or car ride, of course clean your toy without having to carry liquid cleanser with you - or explain what it is that you're cleaning! It may look like winter outside but you and your toy will be springtime fresh!

Monday, November 06, 2006

Dr. Ava is in the Boudoir!

BE is honored to have Dr. Ava Cadell join us in the boudoir. The original Sexpert, Dr. Ava is a passionate advocate of healthy sexuality, and provides tools to help everyone find greater intimacy - physically and emotionally - in their lives.

Visit BE Says to read Dr. Ava's thoughts on staying sane during the busy holiday season. It all starts with giving from the heart. And speaking of giving, we've posted her thoughts on giving oral pleasures - for him and for her. Everybody's a winner this holiday season!

Read on for a little more info on the fabulous Dr. Ava!

Love Guru, Media Therapist, Author and World Class Speaker, Dr. Ava Cadell is an accomplished author of seven books. When TV shows want ratings, they call Dr. Ava who has appeared on numerous national shows including Good Morning America, Extra, Montel Williams, Geraldo, CNN, MSNBC, NBC, ABC & Fox News, a variety of shows for MTV, VH1, Discovery, Lifetime, Learning Channel, ‘E’ and A & E.

A highly sought after speaker in the USA and Canada, throughout Europe, Africa and Asia, Dr. Ava lectures to Fortune 500 organizations, religious groups, medical institutes and colleges on the topics of romance, relationships, love and human sexuality consistently drawing sell-out crowds. Dr. Ava's mission is to promote the benefits of healthy love and intimacy to individuals and couples around the globe.

Dr. Ava has a doctorate in human behavior from Newport University, CA and a doctorate of education in human sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. Through her private practice in LA, she counsels people on personal issues that range from anger management, fear of intimacy, lack of communication to lack of desire.

Friday, November 03, 2006


Fashion is fickle. One season it's dark rinse flare leg jeans, the next it's black denim pencil legs. One season it's perfectly flat-ironed stick straight hair, the next it's relaxed curls with a just rolled out of bed nonchalance. And the same goes for the hair down is fickle!

Some of us trim, some of us wax to a high gloss sheen, and some laser all but the smallest landing strip. And now you can easily add two more options to your pubic primping menu, thanks to Just Kittyng and betty-color for the hair down there.

With Just Kittyng shaping stencils you can shape your "carpeting" into an arrow (even tho' we know how men hate to ask for directions!) or a whimsical heart (gives new meaning to heart shaped box, no?) With betty-color for the hair down there, you can go from blonde to blonder, brunette to raven black, or a hot pink that will surely get a party started.

And how about this for a power packed primping protocol - shape & color combo for the carpeting...just like a cut & color for the drapes. If ya know what I mean. Pink heart anyone? Blonde arrow to light the way? Hmmmm you may want to reconsider that wax appointment!
Essentially Yours,

Thursday, November 02, 2006

Sleeves of Blue

The Beaded Strokemaster has been such a success that we're taking our cue from you...and just added two - yes, two! - new masturbation sleeves.

Both are from the fine folks at Vibratex who've brought countless women hours of pleasure with the Rabbit Habit and Rabbit Pearl. Obviously they know a thing or two about quality toys!

The Sidekick #1 and Sideckick #2 are kickin' with possibilities. #1 is closedd at the end, which some men find provides more suction. #2 is open-ended like the Beaded Stroker. Both have ticklies on the inside for added stimulation, and both are made from the material darling of sex toys, elastomer. And as far as the feel in your hand, well both Sidekicks are less bulky than the Beaded Stroker, if that's a consideration for you.

Is one better than the other? It's really just a matter of preference. We'll be posting a review oh-so-soon of both. So check back, lovelies, and see what others have to say on the subject of sleeving.

Saturday, October 28, 2006

O Buzzes About *the* O

A customer called recently with a request to find a vibrator, or dildo, that would approximate her husband's penis size. Apparently she was experiencing some pain during intercourse and her physician recommended some practice sessions using a home made dildo out of bee's wax to mirror her husband. (I've never heard of that....have you? Please post if you have any information on this...we would all love to hear the ins & to speak. )

Anyway, since her M.D. said 'get thee a dildo' - strictly for medical purposes - she decided to kick it up a notch and at least have some fun with her medical rehab. Hence, the decision to try a sex toy.

This all got me thinking about how many women aren't comfortable with buying toys. Maybe they think it will be a negative commentary on their character; or that toys are pornographic; or that they're interested but don't want to purchase something in such a public arena. As Hilda Hutcherson, MD. points out in the June '06 issue of O Magazine, "When I write a prescription (for a sex toy), I'm giving a woman permission from a doctor. And some of us need that. Ten percent of the sexually active female population have never had an orgasm, and God knows how many women have trouble climaxing with a partner. I prescribe a vibrator for use during intercourse. Toys give you control and provide extra stimulation."

She adds, "Toys can put the oomph back into long-term relationships, so you start releasing those hormones that actually do keep couples close. And if you don't have a steady partner, they help your body remember how to respond. Or if you're menopausal - and not sexually active or taking estrogen - they keep the blood flowing through those vessels."

Need more permission? Hilda continues with this,"You've got to prevent your vagina from shrinking and getting dry - a dildo is fantastic for that."

So whether you're new to sex toys or you're looking for a new addition to well-used bedside collection, consider Dr. Hutcherson's thoughts and prescribe some good ol' fashioned healthy sexuality for yourself!

BE carries many of the products mentioned in her article:
Rabbit Habit
Fukuoku 9000
G-Spot Vibrator
Strawberry Cheesecake Flavored Lubricant
Pocket Rocket (we also like the Natural Contours Jolie)
Remote Control Panties
Shunga Erotic Geisha's Secrets (similar to the honey dust product mentioned)

Thursday, October 19, 2006

Sexy Girl to the Rescue

So there I was throwing coffee grinds down the garbage disposal, only half-awake and the pooch needing a walk, when I heard it. The unmistakeable sound of this ol' disposal grinding to a halt. Thankfully my plumber lives around the corner and came to my rescue.

No, I would not describe him as the Sexy Girl in this post's title. But he spotted a bottle of Sexy Girl Romance Mist among some of the other BE products. I gave Mr. Plumber Man a little spritz so he could smell it, and then he did the most lovely thing.

He said he wanted to buy a bottle right then and there for his long-time partner who suffers from bipolar disorder. It wasn't that he was trying to get a leg up, so to speak, in the bedroom. He just wanted to spray some Sexy Girl on his sexy girl's pillow that night so that she would be reminded - in one of her darker moments - that she was still sexy in his eyes no matter how hard things got for her.

Obviously mental illness is not something to take lightly or joke about. I just thought it was remarkable that someone who doesn't really know me at all would share something so private about his life with his beloved. It's so much easier in our society to talk about the ins & outs of sex: how to do it better, who to do it with, improving technique...but so much more difficult to talk about the dark corners in our lives that are so difficult to share with other humans. And on that day I felt honored that someone shared something real with me, and that I could help by lending an ear and sharing a little aromatherapy rescue into the mix.

I'd like to think they'll live happily ever after, but I think just living and being there for each other is an amazing accomplishment! This is a shout out to Mr. Plumber Man & his sweetheart, an original Sexy Girl.

Give That Man a Hand!

A few weeks ago I heard from a male customer who had never used a masturbation sleeve of any kind. So when he recently tried one - the Beaded Stroke Master since we're sharing - I really thought he was going to tell me he hated it. That he preferred his hand and nothing could change that.

Okay, so color me wrong!

In what I like to call a power IM session, he gave me a full report of his experience with the Beaded Stroke Master. And if you're in the market for a sleeve of your own, you may want to consider his review.

First, he said it was a totally different orgasm than he was accustomed to while self-pleasuring. The reason? The little beads on the inside provided a consistent friction to the sensitive underside of the shaft. Result? Excellent orgasm!

Second, it's a jelly toy so it requires a fair amount of lube to create the amount of slip-n-slide you're after and he liked being able to control that part of it, too.

The only criticism he noted was that he was occassionally worried that the little balls on the inside (the sleeve's-not his!) would fly out...but since they didn't...the stroke master found a new friend. And my friend is a very happy guy! (You can find this item at BE for Men on

Slippery When Wet

To lube or not to lube...a frequent question from many of our customers...followed by a range of questions trying to determine which lube will fill all your slippery requirements.

There's a lot of great information out there about properly lubricating, and since it is one of the foundations of great sex, here are a few thoughts to help guide you through your choices.

First, even if you are a woman who easily lubricates when aroused, your body and the environment will conspire against you at some point.

Ask yourself:

  • Have you ever noticed that a few cocktails leave you a little less moist?
  • Or that your allergy meds did a great job drying up your sinus membranes, and then did some work on all your other mucous membranes as well?
  • How about pregnancy and menopause? They're just normal parts of life that can also effect your self-lubrication. There's no need to accept that as "just the way it is."
  • Enjoy anal sex? Don't even think about playing back there without lube.
  • Just hoping to create a different sensation?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then you owe it to yourself to invest in a good lube!

BE currently carries three different lubricants. Here's how they break down:

  • PINK (silicone based)- The advantage to silicone based lubes is that they last forever and you really only need a few drops to achieve your desired results. Sure, they cost a little more per bottle than some of the brands you're used to seeing at your local drugstore, but they last forever!

    Bonus points! Silicone lubes are thicker than water-based or non-glycerin water-based lubes which means they're a good choice for anal play! And they can be used for all your underwater adventures! Downside? Since they are waterproof they're a bit harder to clean from fabric, but easily rinse off of body parts.
  • System JO H20 Personal Lubricant for Women - There is 0% oil, wax, or silicone in this lube. It feels lighter than the more gloppy, thicker lubes you may have tried. As with PINK, you may pay a little more for this terrific lube than you might for something in a messy tube you've seen at the drugstore, but just like spending a little extra on shampoo - if you try a more premium lube and we think you'll be glad you did.
  • Bonus points! If you're prone to yeast infections this is a safe bet!
  • O'My Flavored Lubricant - Give yourself a little taste treat. Flavored lubes used to taste medicinal if not absolutely chemical. Some still do! But this line is really appealing if you're just looking to add some fun into the mix. Sort of like adding candy to your already sweet oral pleasure.

    Bonus points! No sugar in these if you're concerned with keeping your sugar intake to a minimum.

As always, we want to hear from you. Please let us know if there are specific brands you're interested in purchasing from BE. We'll be happy to get you exactly what you need, and add it to our mix. And of course feel free to post or email with any questions or comments you have about your adventures in lube! Find all of the above in BE Prepared at

Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Penny For Your Thoughts

Calling all BE fans!

Whisper sweet nothings in our ear and tell us how much you're enjoying your sexy new toys.

Have a favorite? We want to know!

Have a special product request? Tell us!

Have a question or two? Ask away and let the BE community weigh in with answers, suggestions, and personal experiences.

Ready, set, vibrate!

Tuesday, September 12, 2006

Hi Honey! How about a little...

Birds do it - bees do it - oh come on now! Everyone does it! Granted, not everyone has added sex toys into their repetoire but that doesn't mean they haven't thought about it.

Okay then, how can you be sure your partner has thought about it?

Ask! Hint! Suggest! Simply tease the subject into your otherwise routine conversation. You're probably already comfortable talking about any number of subjects so this can be an exercise in stretching those great relationship communication skills you've already developed. Rest assured there is no shame in admitting to what you're curious about.

Author Violet Blue has a slew of great conversation starters - and approaches - in her book "The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys." As she so astutely points out, sex toys are not only for solo play and use between couples is not a sign that things have gone south in the bedroom. Nor are toys a sign that someone's not holding up their end of things, or that one or both of you is deviant for wanting to explore new territory. Communication, playing, and exploring are all part of a great relationship. And introducing a shiny new toy may turn a little sexy spark into a big bedroom bonfire!

"The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys" is available in the BE Sexpert aisle at

Essentially Yours,

Saturday, September 02, 2006

Treat Yourself, You Little Minx

Really? Does it get any more luxurious than this? The Minx by Shiri Zinn exemplifies the Boudoir Essentials aesthetic. It's gorgeous, soft, encrusted in bling, and quite frankly worth every decadent penny. Now get busy and put the Minx at the top of your holiday wish list. Enjoy!

Essentially Yours,

Tell a Friend & Get Free Ground Shipping!

Please join us in celebrating the launch of Boudoir Essentials an upscale sensual Web boutique for discerning women-and the men who love them!

Let your imagination take flight while you browse through the BE product categories and create your Wish List.
Then use the Tell-a-Friend feature to share our news and you'll receive free ground shipping on your next order of $75 or more!

We've designed every aspect of Boudoir Essentials with you in mind, so we encourage you to send us
your product reviews and suggestions. We look forward to becoming your one-stop shopping for all things spicy!

Essentially Yours,
Proprietress, Boudoir Essentials
BE Bold. BE Alluring. BE Daring.
Who do you want to BE?

Farewell Summer '06

Summer '06 has been good to Boudoir Essentials!

It's been fun to meet & greet all our new friends, and we're looking forward to a spicy entertaining Autumn.

It's true that we could be running around in the 100 degree Los Angeles heat this Labor Day weekend, but your Proprietress has opted to stay in her own air-conditioned boudoir and narrow down new products for BE's Fall additions. Ooooo there are some fun items coming up!

Pssst, don't forget, we always want to hear what products you're interested in seeing in our boudoir. Winter, Spring, Summer, or Fall...all you have to do is call! or email ;)

Essentially Yours,
BE Bold. BE Alluring. BE Daring.
Who do you want to BE?